Accordingto Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, emerging adulthood is a life stage betweenadolescence and young adulthood. Those belong to this stage, asstated by Arnett, are between 18 to 29 years. The youths in thisstage experience self-focus, instability, sense of broad futurepossibilities, and identity explorations (Arnett, 2015). The paperaims to show whether I have experienced complete emerging adulthood,in progress, or I expect the stage in the future.
Ibelieve I am in the progress of emerging adulthood since I feel thatI have started accepting many personal responsibilities. For example,I have stopped blaming poor teaching any time I fail an exam. I cannow accept that my failure is a result of lack of hard work in mystudies. I am also making many decisions on my own without theinfluence of my friends or parents. After finishing high school, Imainly followed what my peers decided, but during my years incollege, I have learned to make decisions without any influence. Iagree with Kohlberg’s autonomous or principled stage that I need tomake decisions according to self-chosen principles that uphold mydignity (Bowden,2015).I also depended fully on my parents for financial assistance, butthat is in the past. I have now developed an urge of earning mymoney. For example, I have resulted to paying internships each time Iam on summer break. In the past, calling my parents frequently askingthem for money was easy, but now, it has become one of the difficulttasks. I feel embarrassed anytime I ask them for any financial help.
Ifeel like I am searching for my identity. I agree with Erikson thatadolescent years involve identity exploration to enable one move fromrole confusion to a sense of identity (Erikson, 2014). I now findmyself trying different things before it is too late for me. Before,I used to do things for fun, including learning. However, this haschanged as I am now concerned about my future identity. For example,I used to focus on beauty when engaging in a romantic relationship.This has since changed as I am now glued to values, goals, andlong-term satisfaction instead of a short-term one. I am also worriedif my course will allow me to find the right career. I am havingadded pressures of studying hard to ensure that I get out of collegewith high grades to avoid struggling during my job search.
Anotherreason I believe I am in the process of emerging adulthood is that Ifeel like I am searching for my personal awareness andidentification. I always doubt myself, as I am afraid I will notreach my life goals. I sometimes feel that the college education isnot preparing me enough for the future. I find myself on my own mostof the times. The isolation and anxiety come from fear of seeing myage-mates` amazing lives on social media. I am also becoming lessattached to my parents` faith and beliefs. Every day I am becomingless attached to religious institutions of my childhood, as Istruggle to find my beliefs.
Ifeel that I am no longer a child and at the same time, I feel like amnot an adult. I am struggling every day to find what suits me best. Ifeel the urge of exploring all my life options, including the deadends and the wrong turns, which make me feel that I am still anemerging adult.
Arnett,J. J. (2015). Emerging adulthood: The winding road from the lateteens through the twenties (2nd ed.). New York, NY: Oxford UniversityPress.
Bowden,J. A. (2015). Moral compass framework. InternationalJournal for Researcher Development, 6(1),9-23.
Erikson,E. H. (2014). Identity: Youth and crisis. New York: Norton.