Movingin together as a couple before marriage has both advantages anddisadvantages. Regardless of the fact that most of the couples thatcohabit end up successfully, others do not last for a sufficientlyextended period of time to mature into marriages. Discarding thetraditional perceptions of marriage, youths in the contemporarysociety have sought to live together before marriage or even fail toget married altogether. This script addresses the issues related tomaking choices on whether or not couples should live together beforemarriage.
Couples live together to get to know whether each can satisfy the desires of the other.
Eventhough many religions and cultures prohibit cohabitation, youngcouples move in together to know each other well. While livingtogether, young adults can understand the likes and dislikes of theircounterparts.
Young people move in together because it is considered a necessary step before marriage.
Sincemarriage has loads of responsibilities, young couples chose to livetogether first as a way of starting the long journey towardsmarriage. Assuming marriage is an uncertain affair, young couplescommit to cohabitation instead.
Couples prefer cohabitation because doing a wedding is expensive.
Discouragedby the huge finances in doing a wedding, young adults opt to livetogether. Young adults believe that they do not have the funds tofinance a marriage and therefore decide to move in together.
Young adults prefer cohabitation because they believe there are no features of long-term relationships.
Youngcouples prefer to live together to marriage because according tothem, a relationship should come to an end after two people have beenin a union for a sufficiently long time. This is because they see nofeatures in cohabitation that lay the grounds for the development ofa long-term relationship.
Some youths cohabit to emulate their parents who might have experienced the same life.
Youngcouples may decide to cohabit just because they saw their parentsdoing the same thing. Still, some couples cohabit in fear of theirmarriages failing in case of a failure in the marriage life of theirparents. Therefore, such young couples cohabit to avoid futuremarital problems.
Young couples live together to save on costs.
Bearingin mind that there is a global financial crisis, it’s hard for asingle youth to foot all the bills alone. As such, young couplescohabit on a month to month agreement to share the costs of living.In the case of failure, it is easy for a couple to separate differentfrom when they are in a marriage.
Young couples cohabit as a way of avoiding divorce in the future once they get married.
Toprevent the humiliation and costs of litigation in divorcesettlements, young couples widely embrace cohabitation because it hasan easier exit strategy compared to marriage.
Considering that cohabitating couples have nothing serious binding them, they may become too comfortable and fail to marry.
Youthsliving together can give pretexts as to why they do not want to getmarried, but it’s only because of the comfort derived from being ina convenient living arrangement that has no weighty responsibilities.
Some tendencies are hard to discard because of convenient living arrangements.
Acouple that has been cohabiting might experience difficulties inmarriage because of the old agreements that were based on convenienceand not love. Therefore, even in marriage, remnants of the oldcohabiting arrangements can damage a marriage because rules of livingtogether may remain the same.
Cohabitation has caused a decline in marriages and an increment in marriage postponements.
Sincea young couple may be comfortable cohabiting, they may get stuck atthis level and not proceed to marriage. This has reduced the numberof marriages and has also increased the number of marriagepostponements. The net effect is that more youths will be single fora long time as they evaluate their counterparts.
In conclusion, cohabiting has become the preferred relationship among young couples in the present society. As a living arrangement, cohabiting has advantages and disadvantages. There are many reasons why young couples cohabit, but most of them get into such relationships to know their counterparts better, circumvent the costs of a wedding, prepare themselves for marriage, share the costs of living, avoid future divorces, and emulate their parents. However, cohabitation makes future marriages hard, causes a decline in the marriages, and has resulted in the postponement of marriages.