GenderAppropriate and Inappropriate Behaviors
GenderAppropriate and Inappropriate Behaviors
Inthe modern world, the issue of homosexuality has been on the risewith people openly admitting they are gay. Homosexuality is oftencharacterized by boys pretending to be girls and some girlspretending to be boys. Crossdressing like is the case with the boywho likes dressing as a girl does not necessarily mean that the boyis gay. Most people that cross dress are assumed to be gay which isnot usually the case. Approximately a third of cross dressers areconfirmed to be gay according to research. This means that the othertwo-thirds are straight hence the conclusion that cross dressing doesnot amount to being gay. The Same case applies to girls that crossdress. Girls who favor traditionally boy things do not necessarilymean they are gay.
Cross-dressingalso does not mean that one is a prostitute. For example in England,women that were found to cross dress were arrested for prostitution.These accusations were unsubstantiated through research that wascarried out all over the country. The study figured out that womencross dressed to elude prostitution. The findings also indicated thatthey cross dresses so that they could get jobs usually done by men toearn a living (O`NEIL,2014).
Crossdressingpresents its consequences. For example, traditionally, people thatcross dressed were considered immoral and some were even arrested.Crossdressers were considered to be of low social class and weredeemed to be sexually lascivious. In extreme circumstances, the womenwere whipped as punishment and some were even forced to do hardlabor. Cross-dressing does not only have negative consequences but ithas some positives for those that practice it. Crossdressers can havea higher level of esteem when cross-dressed rather than when they arewho they are. Cross dressers also have been able to acquire jobsotherwise considered to be of the opposite sex. Crossdressers havealso been involved in the entertainment industry especially comediansto make fun of the opposite sex (CBSNews, 2011).
Paraphiliais defined as an intense and tenacious sexual interest other thansexual interest in genital stimulation or preparatory fondling withphenotypically normal, physically mature and consenting humanpartners according to DSM (APA, 2013). This means participating insexual activities other than the interest in genital stimulation.Children that are engaging in cross-dressing or interest in oppositesex things may be displaying characteristics that are consistent withparaphilia. Reasons for cross-dressing range from erotic arousal,tension relief, hidden personas, envy of opposite sex and creativity.However most people that engage in cross dressing do it in privatefor erotic arousal also known as fetishism (AmericanPsychiatric Association, 2013).
Eroticarousal or fetishism is associated with transvestic fetishism. Thisis a Paraphilia where one is attracted to things that aretraditionally for the opposite sex. In the case of the boy that lovesgirly things, this can be considered transvestic fetishism (RAINN,2009).Cross-dressing is also within this type of paraphilia. Based ondifferent research carried out, the behavior of cross-dressing isusually associated with some sort of sexual fantasy. Even to someextent, the cross-dressing has been known to be used for masturbation(Bryden& Grier, 2011).
Inmy opinion, it is important for parents to intervene when theirchildren start to display these types of behavior. The parents candecide to take the child through counseling to try and change thechild’s behavior. If the child is left to continue in suchbehavior, at first, it might seem to be fun, but later on, in thefuture, the consequences of this action might be dire. In the modernworld, most people are spending lots of their wealth throughcounseling to help them get away from such addictions. When abehavior is instilled in a child, it becomes an addiction whichbecomes very hard to let go. If the parents intervene while thechildren are still young, the child may never have to struggle withthe addiction in their later stages of life (Wilson& Widom, 2013).In my opinion, intervention, when the child is still young, is betterthan the parents regretting not intervening in the near future. Ibelieve prevention is better than cure. These behaviors as we havefound out earlier have more negative consequences compared to thepositives. Acting early to prevent this could help the child to havea better and brighter future (Hsuet al., 2016).
Inconclusion, children displaying characteristics that are notconsistent with social norms should be taken as a sign of somethingunderlying that is probably disturbing them. The problem should beinvestigated and solved in advance to prevent abnormal behaviorpatterns. The consequences of these tendencies are dire and the childmight even feel lonely and may not have a normal childhood. Otherchildren might even label the child an outcast which will havelasting consequences on the life of the child. Even if parents do notintervene now when the child is still young, the child will come toregret these behaviors when they are all grown up and can be able toapprehend what their behaviors are. This will cause them many regretsand will have to undergo counseling to change their habits. It willbe harder for them when they are adults, but when they were children,it could have been much easier before they were addicted to changetheir behavior.
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