GENDER ISSUES IN MY LIFE 3
Evidently, the composition of the family in the contemporary times does not equate to the traditional setting where a family comprised both parents. Having been born and raised in a family with both a father and a mother, I consider myself lucky. From the onset, I had the privilege to share the mutual affection of both parents. Their enduring support has persisted since childhood and continues to have a positive impact on my life. Importantly, my experiences have influenced how I think about the categories “man” and “woman.”
My father is a businessperson while my mother is a homemaker. It was easy to discern from early on that my father’s main role was that of a provider and a protector. These two roles were significant and, therefore, he was the head of the household. He was the involved in making all the decisions in the household and neither my mother nor my siblings and I would make major decisions without consulting him. While this was important for maintaining cohesion in the family, it also ensured respect. My mother’s primary role was taking care of our family. Her position in the household was no less important considering the amount of effort she put into ensuring a comfortable home for our family. She ensured sanity in the house and was the main authority when my father was away.
The roles of my parents influenced my behaviors and my expectations on how males and females should behave (Hetherington & Parke, 2003). As a male child, I grew up knowing that, in the future, I should be the provider in my household. In addition to being a protector, a male should be a leader. However, being a leader should not necessarily mean exercising absolute authority over others. Also, from my experiences, females should be nurturers but should not be restricted from finding and reaching their potentials as leaders or even providers and protectors.
Hetherington, E., & Parke, R. (2003). Child psychology: A contemporary viewpoint (5th ed.). Boston: McGraw Hill.