Interpersonal Attraction

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Thepersonal relationship involves the close companionship, cooperation,passion, and communication between two or more individuals. Peopleshare ideas, thoughts, strategies, and conduct in the closerelationship. The wellbeing of the society is enhanced when allindividuals engage in personal relationships that are moral, ethical,and accepted in the society. The paper discusses the processes andfactors that form and sustains the attraction in personalrelationships.

Thepersonal relationship that I have is friendship. I have been a closecompanion to John for several years. We grew up together in the sametown and attend the same learning institution. Our parents know eachother because they work in the same company. The friendshiprelationship is sustained by an effective attachment style. Thesecure attachment style has high attraction levels. People using thisstyle have “the highest level of commitment to relationships aswell as the highest level of satisfaction” (Aronson, Wilson,Sommers, and Akert, 2016, p. 330). We are committed to therelationship because we have been friends for several years.

Thereare four concepts that caused the development and progress of therelationship. First, the relationship developed because of thepropinquity effect. There is proximity because we live in the sameneighborhood. Our parents are also professional colleagues at theworkplace. We study in the same school. Second, similarity influencedthe relationship. We belong to the same age group and have similarhobbies for example, watching football and enjoying musicentertainment. Third, reciprocal liking has improved ourrelationship. I am happy in the relationship because John believes Ihave an attractive fashion style. On the other hand, John feelsmotivated in studies because I acknowledge his competency in onlineresearch. Fourth, physical attractiveness improves relationships. Ourrelationship is successful because we value our different racialcategories. I am White American, while John is mixed race. His fatheris African-American, and his mother is White-American (Aronson,Wilson, Sommers, and Akert, 2016, p. 305).

Thefour concepts are critical in enhancing the friendship relationship.This is because they increase the level of acceptance and tolerancein the relationship. The concepts also encourage mutual respect andclose cooperation between the individuals in the relationship. Peopleremain in relationships when they feel important, appreciated, andvalued. People are happy when they engage in “making friends andhaving positive, warm relationship” (Aronson, Wilson, Sommers, andAkert, 2016, p. 305).

TheWhite-American culture in the United States supports the developmentof relationships between diverse people. The white culture isattractive because it supports divergent opinions and embraces newideas and concepts. People from this culture can fit in any socialcontext because they accept change, innovation, and new issues easily(Heine, 2015).

Johnis from the African American cultural background. The diversecultural content enhances our friendship because we shareexperiences, ideas, and practices. We are curious about sharingcommon practices and explaining unique cultural perspectives (Heine,2015). Different cultural backgrounds do not affect theimplementation of the four concepts in romantic and friendshiprelationships. John and I live in proximity in the same neighborhood.Proximity improves understanding in the relationship. We are similarin many ways. I have relatives who are in mixed-race marriages, justlike John’s parents. We like different aspects about each otherfor example, I admire the computer applications skills of John(Aronson, Wilson, Sommers, and Akert, 2016, p. 305).

Attractionis important in interpersonal relationships because it ensures mutualappreciation and cooperation. Effective communication is importantbecause it enables the individuals in the attraction relationship totolerate and understand the different perspectives of each other.


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